In this blog post I am going to talk about friends and family calling you “not normal” and generally not understanding your mission.
I can talk about this subject because my parents didn’t (and still don’t) support my goals and would often say this to me. I thought about this topic because a client of mine who lost 40 lbs was encountering resistance from some people close to her.
It’s not a big deal
It’s normal for people to get freaked out whenever there is some big change. Humans like it when everything stays the same and we fear disrupting the norm.
So when someone starts working out like crazy or changes their diet people close to them will resist the change. They will literally try say and do things to hold you back.
Keep being honest with yourself and don’t compromise yourself. If you are pretty sure you would like to go ahead and obsess over a goal until it is accomplished then go do it.
Keep working towards your goal even if other people don’t understand your mission.
Most People Won’t Understand Your Mission/Goal
It is super common and actually not a bad thing if other people don’t understand your mission and find you “weird” or “not acting like yourself”. No shit! We are trying to change ourselves here and improve!
If you had a vision and EVERYBODY agreed with it, that would actually be pretty weird.
Also you shouldn’t be talking about your mission with everybody. Be selective with who you talk to because most people won’t understand you and might try saying something to discourage you.
There are always a few people who are on your team
Most people won’t understand your mission and will try to fuck you up in a passive-aggressive way. But if you stay true to yourself and keep going towards what you want, you will find people who are like you.
If you are real and remain real in the face of bullshit two things will happen:
1) People will like or just accept you and stay in your life.
2) People will not like you and they will fuck off.
The people that do like you when you are yourself are the right people to have around anyway. You don’t want to be pretending to be someone else just so somebody (who you don’t even like) likes you.
This post is already too long. In conclusion: most people will not understand your goal or mission, ignore them and continue with what you want, if you remain real – you will find people who like the real you.
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